“THE ENEMY WITHIN–GET OUT OF YOUR OWN WAY” | The Recap (originally aired 2-20-13)

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“THE ENEMY WITHIN–GET OUT OF YOUR OWN WAY“ - The Recap

Originally aired:

Wednesday, February 20th, 2013

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I’m Starting With The Man In
The Mirror
I’m Asking Him To Change
His Ways
And No Message Could Have
Been Any Clearer
If You Wanna Make The World
A Better Place
Take A Look At Yourself, And
Then Make A Change

- Michael Jackson “Man in the Mirror”

Last week on PLAYING DEVIL’S ADVOCATE™ -Hosted by Ms. KiKi we discussed the definition of love. What came out of that discussion was the understanding that you must first learn to love yourself. What we didn’t talk about was that in order to truly love yourself, you must first get out of your own way. You may have heard the saying “You are your own worst enemy” and what that means is that there is a part of you that will try it’s best to prevent you from making changes and improvements in your life. That part of you is your subconscious. Your subconscious believes that what it knows to be true is, for better or worse, is what is best for you. There is a comfort that comes along with the learned behavior it has accumulated over the course of your life. When you start thinking of or doing something it is not familiar with, it will recognize this as pain. The fear of this pain, no matter how unrealistic it may be, is what causes all the things we end up doing to sabotage ourselves. Gone unchecked, we will continue to stay in a state of stagnation, unable to move forward. None of us will have the same reasons for why we behave the way we do, as life is a singular experience. What we all can do is take a deep look in the mirror and see far enough into ourselves to be able to meet “THE ENEMY WITHIN”.

Ms. KiKi was back in class with another lesson to help educate us all about the inner workings of life. There are many levels of counter productive activity that will keep us in denial. One of the major ways we stand in our own way is through procrastination. There are 3 reasons why we procrastinate 1. Lack of Focus 2. Lack of a goal or plan 3. Having a negative feeling towards something. What we should do is confront these things in order to move past them, but for many it’s easiest to just avoid them. The problem is that the more you avoid, the more that will pile up until we become overwhelmed. Fear and doubt are other bricks on the road of self sabotage. It is the killer of all dreams. Fear and faith can not coexist. If you truly believe you are capable of doing something you can’t be fearful of it. The faith Ms. Kiki is talking about is the faith you must have in yourself. She went on to breakdown other ways we excuse ourselves from facing our negative self images. Things such as Overcompensation, Laziness, Self Fulfilling Prophecy, Real vs. Ideal and Negativity. To hear the rest of the conversation you’ll have to listen to the ARCHIVES.

Sporty Spunky Angel felt it was a good time to tilt her halo and take a shot at me, Peepin Shaun. Since I am the proclaimed “know-it-all” she asked Ms. KiKi if this was a form of self sabotage. I mean honestly the nerve of her throwing “ME” under the bus! I will agree that tuning out the thoughts and opinions of others limits to our own overall perspective of the world. Now I’m always willing to hear the things that are being said to me and I can take whatever value there may be in it. That doesn’t mean that I personally will view those things as meaningful information. After all, what else can be expected of me? Facebook Shaka dropped in with his brand of humor and gave us a list of “Ways You Know You Are a Self Sabotager“. All I can say is…he continues to makes us laugh and shake our heads at the things that come out of his mouth. This week’s “Drink of the Week” is sure to help you gain enough courage to fight off your demons. Our producer, Chandra looked to the heavens for inspiration and created this potion called “Vanilla Skies”.

The Ask PDA letter is a clear definition of someone standing in their own way. Our writer has two issues they need to deal with. The first is a house guest that has long since worn out their welcome. Should being a family member be an excuse for not correcting a bad situation? The second is an employee that needs to be fired. This is not something anyone should take pleasure in, but if that person is not right for the job and could cause you financial loss then you should be allowed to put aside your sympathies and do what needs to be done. You are the one who has more to lose here. Tell us what you think after hearing the letter in the ARCHIVES.

Thanks to Rocky Miller for calling in and joining the panel. His family took a trip to the ATL and hung out with our illustrious host and producer. Hear about their weekend meet and greet. A big shout to all our repeat offenders and new chat room participants for making this a great show. Keep sending those Tweets, Facebook Messages and emails. We do it for you, but we couldn’t do it without you.

Next week we’re going deeper down the rabbit hole of our psyches; to the darkest part of our nature. This is the end product of not being able to love ourselves and falling too far into self sabotage. “SELF DESTRUCTION–VIOLENCE” is the name of the show and we’re going to talk about all its many forms. Be sure to tune in!

~Peepin’ Shaun~