“Shop Talk: The Barbershop” – The Recap
Wednesday, October 3rd, 2012
Women are the most beautiful creatures on the planet earth! They are worshiped, written about, captured on canvas and in pictures. They captivate us on the television and the movie screen and are often objectified in music videos. The one things I find in common with these portrayals is that they are all from a distance. Now why is this? Is it easier to simply admire women from afar? This week on PLAYING DEVIL’S ADVOCATE™ we gathered some Intel from men about the things that frustrate us most about the fairer sex and had a chance to air it our on a show called “Shop Talk: The Barber Shop”.
Now being the resident testosterone on the show, I enlisted the voice of Chris Nazareth, author of Black Men: How They Date, Love, and Marry – or Not to join this discussion. Now if you don’t know by now men and women seem to speak two entirely different languages. In general settings and friendships the oft miss-communication can simply be dismissed as silliness or perhaps even ignorance but when you are dating or in a relationship, these breakdowns can very well lead to break ups. So what are some of the common issues we men seem to have, with the emotional and erratic nuances of the objects we most seem to desire?
Our knowledgeable host and translator for the night, Ms. KiKi believes that most of these female issues, by which men find delusional, are created from one main source… her father. Either a girl is given an unrealistic understanding that she is the most important person in the world, by being spoiled by her father. Or a girl grows up without a father and spends her life trying to fill a missing void of the love and attention she may have missed out on. In either scenario, once a woman grows up she is still trying to find that special love she had or missed out on and we, as the men in their lives, will most likely have to suffer for it… in some way.
Being a historian of sorts, Chris broke down the definition of the term “Husband”. Basically it is a man’s job to tend to and cultivate the woman in his life. Now that may have worked at a point in time when a man was truly the king of his castle. When he had a certain authority and reverence. When his word was headed and not contested or rejected. In this day and age, that’s not really how things are. So therefore, it becomes more difficult for a man reap the benefits of his cultivation and there is nothing worse, than a bad harvest.
Ladies, Ladies, Ladies.. Oh how I Shaun Amin do love you…from a distance that is. Seriously, let me just clear this up once and for all. We are not mind readers! There is nothing more frustrating than to know something is bothering your girl and when you ask her “What’s wrong?” she says… “Nothing”. No this is not a game I’m likely to play for very long. I’m not going to guess what it is or am I going to jump through hoops to figure it out. I cared enough to ask because it was evident that something was amiss. Now I understand if it is something that you may not want to talk about it at that moment, but do not expect me to fret about it once I have shown my concern.
Sporty Spunky Angel gave us her 2 rules for getting along with women. Rule #1… The woman is ALWAYS right! Rule #2 … in the RARE event she is wrong; refer to rule #1. Now as amusing as I find this to be, there is some truth to this regarding a woman’s prerogative. It seems that a woman can, will and has the right to do, say and act however she wants to based on how she feels at any given moment. Furthermore, she is justified in her actions and behavior because how she feels trumps all. So what’s left for a guy to do, to get through all this muckety muck and keep love and peace in a relationship? Listen to the archives to hear what advice was given and if we came to any semblance of a resolution. We may not be able to solve the ills of the world, but we do try to impart some knowledge to our listeners, in order to helps us all get along that much better.
From our conversation it seems to me that men have an uphill battle on their hands in hopes of ever understanding how to keep the average woman happy. It’s almost as if we’ve been set up in a lose-lose scenario and told to choose the best course. For those who have been able to navigate this river of estrogen successfully, I commend you. You may indeed be a better man than I. I seem to be better off on dry land myself. I suppose one day I’ll take another dip and jump in with both feet. Sounds good right?
Once again we were joined by Rocky Miller, who always brings his special brand of wisdom and humor to the show. I’m still trying to figure out how one of his stories ended with someone being put into a wood-cutter. It was nice to have as many people call in as we did during this show. One call in particular was prompted by our “Drink of the Week”.
Be forewarned, this drink may not be just for men, but it might put a few new hair’s on your chest. Our producer, Chandra is trying to hurt someone with what she calls “Hot Fizzle” <— click the link to get the ingredients. I love what our caller had to say about this drink. “You drink this if you’re about to get into a fight… or have a Ménage.”
We can’t end the show without hearing the Ask PDA letter. Our writer has some concerns about an unruly teenager and how it may affect the relationship they are in, from moving forward. Can they truly insert themselves into a potential parental powder keg and still maintain the small sense of selfishness they have enjoy thus far? When you want to become “serious” about becoming a part of someone’s life, it’s expected that you will have to take on issues they have that stem from the past, are in the now and will most likely come u in the future. You truly have to be all in. The question remains… is Love really enough? I’m still trying to figure out if it’s really real at all.
Thanks to our guest panelists, our callers and for all those that join us weekly in the chat room. Keep sending those Tweets, Facebook Messages and emails. We do it for you, but we couldn’t do it without you.
Tune in next week when the women will have their chance to air out the biggest issues they have with men. Join us for Part 2 of this series “Shop Talk: The Beauty Shop”
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