If you have ever said any of the following statements, THIS SHOW WAS FOR YOU:
He/She must be desperate to put up with _________…
That could never happen in my relationship!
Marriage is supposed to _________…
The conversation kicked off with the cast’s opinion on nosey people in their business. Shaun, Sporty and KiKi all gave the expected answers with a sprinkle of “momma n ’em” sayings. Personally I am a hypocrite on this subject; I don’t want anybody in my business, but you might catch me with my nose stuck in yours from time to time. KiKi used RHOA‘s drama between Kandi Burruss and Momma Joyce’s issues with her fiance to start the feedback. As expected, everyone had an opinion or some advice on that subject. Listen to the archives to really hear how KiKi feels about Joyce!
While discussing Kandi and her drama a special guest called in to give his 5 cents. (With all the high point vocabulary words that this man used his opinion is worth a little more than customary two cents!) The actor, producer, artist and extremely good looking Mel Jackson joined the conversation with an opinion on sexual surrogacy. Oh yeah…you know how PDA does it! 😛 Issues about not being able to please you mate and taking separate vacations were all discussed and the only way to hear them is to listen to the archives. In my opinion I believe couples should have lives outside the relationship. Comment below and tell me how you feel.
Every week the Producer, Chan hits the bull’s eye with the Drink of the Week and this week is no different. The Messy MF’r is sure to start whole lot of MESS! This week’s ingredients include Everclear, Whiskey and Coke. Plain, simple and downright rachet is my opinion on this DOW. I will not attempt to act like I am grown enough to handle the MF’r & I’m sure many of you have your big boy/girl pants on, so gather your ingredients and download to the archives to get the Messy MF’r started!
The chat room was on fire as always, and Mel Jackson’s comment about his tongue and something about being ambidextrous did not help the chaos that already happens in the chat room. Cheating, Open Relationships and Monogamy were all discussed and after the DOW the crew seemed to open up and turn up. I was not surprised at the hypocritical male answers to the cheating question. This is why women are better cheaters because you guys are so TENDER when you are the ones being cheated on. You may be slightly surprised when you listen to the archives and find out who believes Monogamy is unnatural.
A repeat offender, Andreas called in with some more hypocritical scenarios and questions for Mel and Shaun to answer; and to keep it 100 I, Zenikki, am a hypocrite on homosexual love. I can handle my man cheating on me with another woman, but I would feel some kind of way about catching him on the DL. This is the moment FB Shaka aka Sporty’s “Mr. Daddy” decided to join the conversation and you know the neighborhood quickly went to hell in a handbasket and Sporty spiced up the dialogue with a few sexually oriented questions. Listen to the archives to get the juicy and hilarious answers.
This week’s PDA letter brought to you by the DOWMESSY MF’r and it too was full of mess. I personally think My Momma is Messy should tell her Momma to give her 50 feet. I love my mommy and one of the things I love best about her is she knows how to be nosey, but mind her own business at the same damn time! The only way to hear everyone else’s words of PDA wisdom is to listen to the archives, do me a favor and comment below.
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I don’t know where you live, but it’s been a pretty hot summer. So we thought it was time to turn things up a bit and talk about everyone’s favorite topic of discussion… yes I’m talking about SEX! There are many ways to approach such a subject matter, but we wanted to take a into account the larger portrayal of how sex is viewed in our society. So we thought we should take a look back to a time when what we saw on television was unimaginably innocent by today’s standards. Exactly how far have we come and where do we go from here? How much has technology changed the way we think about sex ad how we go about getting it? Sit back and listen to how we really feel about “SEX-PAST, PRESENT & FUTURE”.
Sporty Spunky Angel got us started with a look back to the days of TV when married couples slept in separate beds and there was no suggestive sexual displays seen or vocabulary heard. Was what we were subjected to really a portrayal of how people lived? Were we being programmed to believe that sex was a shameful thing that only happening behind closed doors, but never discussed openly? At some point the doors have been ripped off the hinges because today sex is woven into just about every fabric of our society, whether we want to admit it or not.
Here we are in the modernized pre Jetsons society, where access to images and information is virtually limitless. Access to sex happens to be leading the way in what people crave most and we don’t seem care who knows. With every cell phone equipped with a camera, you’ll find naughty shots of body parts which are transmitted back and forth across the world. Everyone has their own tastes and turn ons and now we can search for it and connect to other like-minded people. Ms. KiKi examines some of the current ways in which sex is shared and explored with gadgets and toys. She even explains why her phone game is so on point. How many of us have sexted or skyped or way into a lovers life? At one point the question of “What is bad sex to a man?” entered the conversation and we were happily joined by Rocky Miller, who claims there is no such thing. I happen to feel the complete opposite, in fact I was told I must have a fairly strict grading system. To find out how we could have such a difference of opinion you’ll have to listen to the archives.
So where do we go from here? How has the way sex has evolved in our culture changed the way we approach relationships? Has technology added to or taken away from our level of intimacy. Yours truly, Peepin Shaun Amin brings to light a few new ways in which the envelope of sex is being pushed. Our ever-increasing curiosity, the need to be aroused and satisfied in new ways leads us further down the rabbit hole, ever so quickly. Will there come a day that we no longer even need to have another person to achieve our sexual desires. Do you think you would ever have sex with a robot?
This week’s Ask PDAletter is a prime example of how this computer access to pornography, can challenge our foundations and reveal things about those we felt we knew best. The question is, how well do we really even know ourselves? Our resident legal expert Ikiesha Al-Shabazz gave us her opinion as to what our writer should do, as she questions her husband’s daily visual activity. Do we really have the right to judge or condemn others for the things they find arousing? Leave comment and tell us where you wold draw the line.
Thanks to all of our callers, guest panelists and our chat room full of freaks that make each week a wild a ride. We’re gonna keep things hot and heavy around here with an “End of Summer Sex Series” of discussions. Next week you will not want to miss the show, as we rate and grade a multitude of wild and crazy sex acts and even some of our own extreme sexual experiences. That’s right it’s gonna be a real PDA “Sex Olympics”!
This topic came about from the previous week aired on Wednesday, August 19, 2011 “Ask PDA” letter and the writer asked “KiKi do you consider transgender women to actually be women and if not what are they?” The writer then went on to say he dates transgender and biological women and he is STRAIGHT—–hold up. What did he say? Yeah that is EXACTLY what we said which prompted this very topic, we knew that this would have questions flying and the controversy flowing.
Before I go any further into this blog let me say that I am going to give MY personal opinion on this and I welcome your comments & suggestions. Now that I have that out of the way…let’s do this!
Okay correct me if I am wrong but the definition of being STRAIGHT or more politically correct, “Heterosexual” is: romantic and/or sexual attraction orbehavior between members of the opposite sex or gender.
Now where does it state that a man who sleeps with another man (dressed as a woman or not) is STRAIGHT…realistically he isn’t! This is not just coming from me, but coming from society! This is not just about “thinking” this is what we want you to be, but what you actually ARE and just because you don’t want to come to terms with being labeled homosexual, you choose the title of being straight…NOT! If you are attracted to females, a BIOLOGICAL female with “p*essence” or attracted to MTF transgender, you are at the very least, bi-sexual! Now that’s okay as long as you and your partner are accepting of this behavior and you are comfortable in your skin, nothing else matters.
However, it is delusional to say that you have NO interest in a male if your woman, who was BORN male, has a penis and you are having sex with them and admit you have NO problem performing oral sex with her penis! That in my opinion, is bi-sexual and/or homosexual…IJS.
Our resident medical expert, Dr. G was on deck providing us with the medical information that was very insightful. She explained how the procedures are performed, the hormone therapy involved and the psychiatric evaluation that is required prior to the actual gender re-assignment surgery (GRS) being performed. At one point in the show, Todd asked Dr. G if the chromosomes are different after the surgery and you maybe just be as surprised as I at the answer to that question, but you have to listen to the archives to get that answer! >>>>>LISTEN NOW
Here are some of the questions that were asked:
Does your DNA change after the surgery?
What defines gender? Chromosomes or DNA?
What exactly is transgender?
Why would a man want to date a transgender female is he is “straight?”
If and when do you inform the person you are dating that you are transgender?
How honest are you with the women that you date that you have had relationships with transgender females?
The panel consisted of two transgender females and a “straight” guy who dates them. They were asked a boat load of questions by the chat room participants and our callers. They were straight forward and honest which was exactly what was needed to bring some understanding to some who may have had questions or needed clarity. Kitty & Jaz, thank you again for taking the time to speak so candidly with us. Paul, although I don’t understand your method of thinking this is where I will honorably agree to disagree with you but walk away with respect for you; thank you as well.
A comment made by one of our chat room participants simply sums up the exact reason we do this show:
“I don’t believe in discriminating against ANYBODY for who they are, but to EXPECT everybody to be comfortable with something is not realistic either. Nobody has the right to HATE/DISRESPECT but EVERYBODY has the right to be uncomfortable“.
We have the UNCOMFORTABLE conversations to heal and find solutions for our listeners and quite possibly ourselves. In this open, honest and judgement free dialogue I certainly hope that we were able to cover the questions you may have had and provided some education as well. If you or someone you know needs the information Dr. G shared on the air, contact her here or click here>>> GRS State Requirements for changing your gender on birth records!
If you have any comments or questions about this show or suggestions about any topic that you would like for us to cover, we would love to hear from you!!
A couple of weeks ago we received an “ASK PDA” letter about transgender females and men who date them and it took our listeners for a loop! So by popular demand we have expanded the letter into a topic for discussion in order to get some answers to some lingering questions…
==>What exactly is transgender/transsexual?<==
==>Can you consider yourself a straight man if you are “intimate” with a transgender female?<==
==>When dating as a transgender female, how/when do you disclose you’re NOT genetically a female?<==
We have received many questions from our listeners & we intend on getting answers so join Playing Devil’s Advocate™ this week as Ms. KiKi is joined by a few transgender females and a few straight men who have no problem dating them!
ALL VIEWS ARE WELCOME!!!
You know this is sure to be a interesting discussion so you do NOT want to miss it!
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